You can break life down into different areas: for example health, work, social, personal, spiritual, financial and educational. The foundation you build your life on has to made up of a healthy content of all of these areas. Not perfect, healthy. That means free from all toxic and negativity. The foundation is not your highest expression of yourself, it is the basic expression of yourself. This does not mean that it is not important. It is after all the first brick in building an entire life.
The foundations contain all of your broken pieces put back together in a way that is uniquely beautiful. They cover your values, beliefs and knowledge of self (wants and needs). The knowledge that comes from this introspection is extremely powerful as it will make the direction of further growth easier to identify.
The foundation essentially comes down to knowing yourself, so when it comes to express yourself in various steps in life (such as choices) this expression will be true to who you really are, which will in turn reduce stress, anxiety and possibly even prevent the wrong choices to begin with.
It is important to perform this accurate introspection before setting life goals or plans. If we do not really know who we are, the vision we set will only be a desire of the moment, of that particular period of our life, and not a reflection of who we really are as people. Also, if all of our goals do not work out we will not have anything solid to fall back on and will once again find ourselves navigating through a lot of confusing pieces.
Beliefs and values:
Beliefs are what you consider to be true about each area of your life. For example personal beliefs can be regarding confidence, social beliefs can be from previous social encounters etc. What needs to be done to build a solid foundation is to examine these beliefs and identify if they contain true information or not. A lot of our beliefs about ourselves, others, and the world around us simply develop from previous life experiences and may not be always be correct. Through learning and gaining awareness, you will be able to decipher which thought patterns are destructive and which are constructive.
Values are, by dictionary definition, “principles or standards of behaviour; one’s judgement of what is important in life”. Deciding what is important also implicates deciding what we will give most of our time and energy to. Like with our beliefs, our values have to be examined: where did they come from? Are they true? Do they really belong to us?
Values may seem like a big topic, but it does have an importance on the small actions of our everyday lives. It is important to define and know them, so as we become aware of why we make the choices we do and why we believe that something is right or wrong for us. If we want to start the process of constructing our own lives, we must know what is important for us (not for others). You will never be able to reach your potential, or even be truly content within, if you are living someone else’s life with someone else’s mindset.
Needs and wants:
A need is something that is a necessity to survival, a want is something that can improve your survival. Consequently, lack of needs causes desperation whilst lack of wants causes desire.
It is critical to not confuse the two or we will be permanently in a condition of desperation. We can be strong and survive without our wants, but cannot without needs. This does not mean that we should pretend not to have needs so we can think we are cleaver by only wanting things from life instead of needing them. People do have needs, and these have to be recognised. Truthfully, however.
Wants do disguise themselves as needs, and no one wants to live with that sense of their heart being pulled from them unless they have something. Learning to be self-sufficient can help identify which are true needs and which are wants pretending to be needs.
Areas of life:
The discussion of needs and wants ties in with covering all areas of life: from social to work, health to spiritual and so on. Once you have a grasp of where you are in these areas, you can work on needs/wants inside each one.
For a foundation of life, all areas must be fully healed. A foundation is something you fall back on when everything else goes wrong, hence you don’t want to fall back on broken pieces. All areas must be examined and all issues contained in them dealt with through appropriate means. I find it useful to write out each area and then write underneath where I am in that area (beliefs, wants/needs, hopes). Toxicity must be eliminated (for example negative people for social area, or unhealthy food for health area). Just as before planting new seeds in a garden, you must get rid of weeds, before we grow our new life we must eliminate what will poison that growth.
All areas of life are intrinsically connected, therefore the healing of one area will implicate the eventual healing of all areas. For the foundation to be strong, all of these areas must be strong.
Brilliance Today perspective:
All of the above connects with my project, Brilliance Today. The idea that we must first shine inside before projecting this light into our outer lives can be clearly seen here. The internal brilliance (brilliance here meaning the shining of a light) must be obtained before the external brilliance (brilliance as in measuring a result).
Since we know who we are and where we are going, this must not remain a concept in an undefined space or time. It must be brought into everyday life; the actions and steps we take daily must be in a constructive direction to where it is we want our lives to go.
The foundations of life is obviously an internal aspect, as we must fix these internal bricks before building a life outside. I will discuss the external aspects in another article. I believe this is the starting point for “getting ourselves together” after getting lost in this sometimes confusing maze that life presents itself as.