Although there is a certain element of life that is unpredictable and that escapes our attempts at planning, there is also a certain amount that we are able to plan. Within this part, there is a lot of confusion over what exactly to plan, as in what do we actually want? And since un-met wants bring disappointment, is it even a good idea to want anything from life?
I have struggled with this dilemma for a while: planning vs unexpected events, goals vs disappointment, needing vs freedom from needs.
What I have come to realise is that just because something is unexpected, does not mean that it could not have been avoided. Of course not major events, but not having a plan can leave you open to being carried to random events. Like a leaf is carried by the wind; without certainty of a destination. These random events can be distracting and energy draining, and knowing that they could have been avoided through a more detailed examination of what path we are walking can also be frustrating.
More importantly, even if we are not able to obtain all that we have set out to achieve, planning puts us in the mindset that will allow unexpected things happen, related to what we are doing. Like directing a car onto a road: even if we do not get to the town we wanted to, we are putting ourselves in the right direction, which will allow us to reach similar towns before.
Another important point is that of balance and integration between two opposites. In this case, planning and leaving everything to fate. Where is the middle point? Where do these two lines meet and intersect? What if your fate is that you have to struggle and plan to meet it? Maybe you have to become a certain version of yourself for certain things to happen, even if they are meant to.
There is a point of intersection where our fight to obtain what we desire and want meets with the obtaining of what we actually need, where fate mixes with our own plans, giving us a clearer vision of what it is we want, as well as a deeper understanding of the world around us. Find that point, live on that point, for extremes have never been of benefit.