Our inner concepts, such as values or beliefs, all have an outer correspondence. This is an external manifestation of the inner quality. For example, take the inner concept of confidence. The outer part can be where it comes from, for example people’s opinions.
We can make a list of all of these inner concepts and their outer manifestations, in order to see what it is that controls these inner states.
Are the things that control them actually in accordance with what we know to be true? For example, we know that people’s opinions of us should not affect our confidence, however this is in the matching box.
Our sense of belonging is matched to a certain group, in this example. Should we really depend on that group for our sense of belonging?
It is important to be honest: this is not what we think our inner feelings should be matched to in our lives, but what they actually are matched to. It is not what we would like, but what is. Later, we can write a new one with the required changes.
In order to implement these changes, like a simple drag and drop game, we can remove the box and place a new one. So instead of having ‘people’s opinions’ we can bring in a new box of ‘self-perception/awareness/worth’.
It is also possible to move the existing boxes around, and reorganise them until the desired matches are made. It is at this stage that we can write what we believe them inner states should be matched with, not what they currently are paired with.
This simple drag and drop game requires moral discernment of what is right and what is wrong, along with rational consideration of what we know to be true in life. If this is done thoughtfully however, we will be surprised by what aspects in our external lives are actually controlling our inner states.
Are we giving too much power to the wrong groups/people? Are we pairing our most delicate inner aspects with indelicate monsters?